Self-pity, the worst addiction

Saturday 19 April 2014 | Andreia Nogueira at 13:09 |

¡Everything that happens to you is for your own benefit! Though the wind, the rain or the snow makes you fear that the sun will never come back, the truth is it is always there. Without it, there wouldn't be days, only darkness.

Realize that there is a sun from which everything happens in your life is perhaps the greatest lesson and the most beautiful freedom too, so the sooner you inculcate this premise in your day-to-day, the faster you will find true happiness.You may have noticed that cries attract friends and enemies. There is always an unhappy person sending words of support and simultaneously delighting the top of her superiority. She is less interested in participating in your victory.


The comfort of true friends is like chocolate cake. As delicious as it is, there would be a day when you will miss vegetables. The care and affection put on the cake will lose the taste over time, like happens with everything that is repetitively cooked rubbing the mandatory, and it will come a day when we won't tolerate the chocolate cake anymore neither the chef.

Another alternative is loneliness, which could be fun if you like yourself and be with yourself. Imagination can be really strong and makes you feel real joy. Your nervous system thanks because it doesn't distinguish between reality and imagination. However, your heart asks more. It is the one which should be in charge instead your mind. It is the one which involuntarily jumps of joy or sadness and in fact is among these genuine movements that it will pumping life. It is the one which makes us really feel that you are living and not only alive. Besides, dream too much could create confusion. Even when you do the best for your car, if you put it in a child's hands, you will prepare yourself to the worst. Your body runs the same risk every time you give in to a bruised ego and, therefore, you stay comfortably alone. We don't get maturity with time, but with the sum of situations in which we decided to do what is right instead of letting ourselves drag into emotions and senses.

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However, self-pity is perhaps the most dangerous refuge and is also a kind of selfishness when there are so many people around the world suffering more than us. It emerges like a hug, but with the time it sticks to the heart and starts working as a waterproof cover to love, the love that comes from outside and also the one that comes from inside.

Even though it seems harmless consume a drug once or twice, there will be days when you will want to repeat it and the more space you give to an addiction, the less leeway you will have. There will be a day when your safety zone will also be flooded with this addiction and probably you won't be able to realizing it. Worse, you could risk convince yourself that limitations are part of life, without realizing that they are mental and you can be free from them when you decide it.

Avoid that risk. Obviously, you can always find unaware forces, discover extraordinary friendships and even find God or something higher to give you strength to swim against the tide you created.

However, throughout life, you will always have new challenges and problems, so an inner lifeguard buoy should be filled as soon as possible, so you can always feel the sun's heat instead of spending all the time avoiding a drowning.

As Oscar Niemeyer said, "life is a breath of air, one minute”.